The other day I saw a YouTuber I follow make a text post that said almost verbatim “sometimes I when I watch a thought provoking movie, I find I think about it for several days afterwards.” the highlighted comment was someone saying “I think that’s called hyperfixation?”
People seem to be increasingly oblivious to the difference between thinking about or liking something, fixating or focusing on it, and /hyper/fixation as a disxriptor of the extreme of this that occurs in neurodivergent people.
If someone reads “I think about things sometimes” and sees “hyperfixation”, then I can totally see it following that “I think about people sometimes” becomes synonymous with “I am an obsessive creepy stalker with no boundaries”
Which. Sure is something.
Obviously the trend of people being weird about ‘you need consent to have a crush, but also crushes are a sin’ has been a slow rolling train wreck for a few years now, but seeing that YouTube comment made something click for me
Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it
